tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31647067.post8031427723899071973..comments2024-02-11T10:58:23.271-08:00Comments on Reading to Know: What He Must Be . . . if he wants to marry my daughterCarriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08772667430500306088noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31647067.post-36310187124091397242009-04-25T17:21:00.000-07:002009-04-25T17:21:00.000-07:00Beautiful post. I sounds like an interesting book,...Beautiful post. I sounds like an interesting book, but not necessarily for me. Thanks for sharing.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04451753245856230827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31647067.post-8616798785184476892009-04-20T20:26:00.000-07:002009-04-20T20:26:00.000-07:00Like you I have conservative leanings. I married ...Like you I have conservative leanings. I married at 22 and by God's grace only had a date with 3 other guys before going out with my husband. He is also my first kiss. <br /><br />I think I need this book just to help me see what to teach my boys. I'm sure I've got my work cut out for me!Stephanie's Mommy Brainhttp://www.profitablemommyblogging.com/mommy-bloggers-of-special-needs-children/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31647067.post-30837982857674241362009-04-17T14:37:00.000-07:002009-04-17T14:37:00.000-07:00I think the biggest thing that parents need to rem...I think the biggest thing that parents need to remember is each child's personality is going to differ, for instance; I did not like boys, I was not altogether crazy about men in particular and I was VERY specific about what I wanted in a husband. But rather then sit back and relax my parents kind of tended to overstress the non-dating mindset. In consequence before I was married I never did go on a real date! (And my brother was about ten feet away for my proposal moment! Other then him giggling like a hyena it was romantic!)<br />After we were married we went out together, which was lovely! But as silly as it sounds I am a little disappointed that I never got to be picked up and taken out!<br />And yet I know parents who say "Oh WE only court, we do not allow dating." And yet they have NO IDEA what their promiscuous daughter is doing at night with the church youth group boys! ( I knew three girls who were not as pure as their parents were sure they were.)<br />I guess what it comes down to for me is this; Know your child, talk to them and prepare them, show them God's ways and they will not depart from them!<br />(On a funny note one of my husband's favorite songs now is Cleaning This Gun by Rodney Atkins!)Skyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01446914963118461073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31647067.post-25542327744898194582009-04-17T12:56:00.000-07:002009-04-17T12:56:00.000-07:00Titles like this make me cringe. Having lived and ...Titles like this make me cringe. Having lived and worked in an extremely conservative environment where courtship was the thing, I watched parents use this line of logic to eliminate potential mates for their children who didn't "look right." Most of the judging was really based upon externals. The flip side to that was watching several women marry horrible, horrible men because they could say all the right things to dad. <br /><br />I like the idea of the dad being an example of that man. I think that has the biggest affect on women. But something in the title sounds like a typical controlling dad who exerts his authority rather than earning it. And leaves out any reference to the fact that the daughter is the one who gets to make the ultimate choice, and live with the consequences. Wise women seek the counsel of other godly men just like wise men seek the counsel of godly women when they are marrying. But the patriarchal movement turns women into spineless, naive, fragile creatures with no common sense and wisdom whatsoever. <br /><br />I haven't read the book. I would just like to see more titles that focus on dads (and moms) who love God and each other so passionately that their kids covet their guidance and counsel. Usually these parents (like mine) are so full of humility that they are really hesitant to do much but ask really good questions to help their child arrive at the right conclusions.Rachellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07844171813345071009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31647067.post-46318748078496289612009-04-17T09:37:00.000-07:002009-04-17T09:37:00.000-07:00FINALLY a review of this book that is refreshingly...FINALLY a review of this book that is refreshingly honest, real, and thoughtful. I've got 6 years on your "ripe old age" but oh the joys of knowing and trusting God's timing and YAY!! for pure hearts, strong minds, and true love.Janice Phillipshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06834020038009794226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31647067.post-52721600790147923852009-04-17T07:39:00.000-07:002009-04-17T07:39:00.000-07:00Don't know if you remember that I reviewed thi...Don't know if you remember that I reviewed this for 5M4B. I only had an excerpt available for the review, but what I read was good. Based on what I've read of Baucham's writing & blog, I haven't had issue with his message. But I haven't read this complete work (it's now in my stack). I think it's something we must consider very carefully as we raise our children.<br /><br />Good thoughts!Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14488537925889589851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31647067.post-45409585235213302772009-04-17T06:23:00.000-07:002009-04-17T06:23:00.000-07:00Carrie,
I really like Voddie Baucham, although I ...Carrie,<br /><br />I really like Voddie Baucham, although I do find his ideas challenging at times. I really need to get this book since we have girls. However, my own experience pretty much matches yours, really, through no real planning on the part of my parents. I have a very reticent personality, and I had read enough books (i.e. LMM and others) to have REALLY high expectations. Then along comes dh--a true miracle in itself in terms of timing. He is EVERYTHING I was waiting for, truly. God's timing is perfect if we'll just wait. He was my first kiss, too! : ) We married when I was 25 and he was 24. <br /><br />Thank you, Lord, for protecting me from so much!!!Amy @ Hope Is the Wordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07949836482747469686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31647067.post-37334832688743366502009-04-17T06:19:00.000-07:002009-04-17T06:19:00.000-07:00Oh yeah, I meant to add: I enjoyed your thoughts o...Oh yeah, I meant to add: I enjoyed your thoughts on this book and I totally agree that its message is an important and critical one for today's youth, girls in particular. <I>Quit settling and selling yourselves short! Wait and have high expectations!</I> Yes!Lisa Spencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12990706355525884593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31647067.post-27749285852274701762009-04-17T06:17:00.000-07:002009-04-17T06:17:00.000-07:00I don't think that your getting married at the rip...I don't think that your getting married at the ripe old age (not) of 26 is all that unusual anymore. My sister was 32. I think the average age of girls getting married (for the first time...sadly enough we have to make such delineation) is higher than in years past, which goes to your point about not necessarily having the father's input in every aspect. Of course, Baucham may be assuming the girl will still be at home until she is married?Lisa Spencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12990706355525884593noreply@blogger.com