Friday, June 18, 2010

I don't wanna grow up, and even if I did.....

So we have a new problem in our household. (One that we find kind of amusing, actually.)

Our oldest child refuses to grow. He said he's done. "I want to stay little."

When asked why, he offers two primary reasons:

#1 - He doesn't want his (baby) teeth to fall out.

#2 - He doesn't want to break the house.

We've asked him if he thinks its really possible to break the house if he continues to grow and he assures us that this is a valid concern. It's just as concerning, in fact, as the possibility that he might fall between one of the cracks in the logs of our house. (He is vigilant in making sure that not a single family member steps near a particular crack in the logs.)

We've tried to excite him with all the many things that one can do when they are growing up. We've talked about the things he is already able to do, including:

1. Being able to reach the bathroom sink and wash his own hands. (This means he can play in the water and squirt the soap all by himself.)
2. He can read letters.
3. He can put on his own socks.
4. He can go potty in the toilet (HALLELUJAH!)
5. He can get his own glass of water from the kitchen.

This is of little to no comfort. So this, my friends, is where you come in. Do you have any suggestions for good books about "What I Want to Be When I grow Up!"? Because apparently we need some help.

My top favorite is still My Favorite Michael, by Laura Heiman - because it encourages a love and admiration of one's father. (Michael starts off wanting to be just like his daddy.)

But if you know of any books that assure little ones that they can't ever grow so big that they would break their house - that would be good.



Anonymous said...

i don't know of any books, but my suggestion would be to just let it pass. Unless the worries continue to resurface in conversation, and seem concerning, you might try:

1) OK -- i get to cuddle you longer.

2) If the house breaks, we can all fix it together. Daddy and I don't believe it will, and we are not worried about that.

You cannot logic him out of it; so other than off-handed reassurance, so as to not give it a huge amount of creedence, just consider it one of those phases that kiddos go thru.

E wanted to be an armadillo when she grew up. It wasn't something i tried to talk her out of.


IF the worries do seem overly concerning, i'd wonder if there was something broken somewhere in the house that mom and dad hadn't discovered yet?


Carrie said...

Oh, we're not too overly concerned. Amused by his logic, FOR SURE! =D But just thinking of trying to find ways to make him more interested in growing up - which he is doing like-it-or-not. haha! (I like hearing the things that come out of his mouth. Putting words to the thoughts in his head is HILARIOUS and we have to work hard to keep a straight face sometimes!) - I think I made my post sound more concerned than I meant to so I stuck a new line in there to lighten the mood.

Breaking the house and falling in the crack are our amusements. But I do like your suggested come-backs very much and will use the cuddle one for sure..cuddling and tickling are two things he most definitely likes!

And LOL on the armadillo!!! ha ha ha

elizabeth said...

It sounds like you have a little Peter Pan on your hands! So glad that My Favorite Michael has helped! Enjoy him...
Happy Reading,
tiger tales

Barbara H. said...

Does pointing out that Daddy is grown but he hasn't broken the house yet help at all? I think, like others have said, this is just something that will pass in time and be laughed over affectionately in years to come. Maybe as different things come up. you can point out the benefits of getting older and bigger. "When you're older, you can stay up later, but for now you need to go to bed at this time." "When you're a little bigger, you can ride this ride at the carnival or amusement park," etc. Oh wait -- I just reread and see you're doing that. :-) Maybe sometimes being around kids who are a little older would help, if they're not so rough that it scares him. I wonder if he read or saw something about somebody getting big and breaking a chair or something.

It's been so long since mine were little, I don't remember any books about neat things to see and do as grown-ups, but it seems surely there must be some out there, as well as some about losing teeth.

Carrie said...

Barbara H - Yup. We read a book about losing teeth. =D That's what started the whole teeth statements. We explained it as a good thing, a funny thing, and something to look forward to. But he decided he would rather just keep his present teeth, thank you very much! ;)

Yup - I think some imaginative books re: fun things to be when you grow up would fit the bill just great!

Surprisingly, whenever I suggest he could be an oceanographer or something involving underwater life he declines. His reason? "I don't like sticking my head under water." So there we have it! ;D

Stephanie Kay said...

When you lose your two front teeth then you can spit water out like a fountain, you have a place to poke a straw through, you can stick your sucker stick through the gap and you can stick your tongue through the gap... all activities my 7 year old has been enjoying this year!

Will was apprehensive about losing teeth. Even now (7 gone) he still won't wiggle a loose one. Ben (5) on the other hand met with Ellie's head this week and now has a loose tooth. I've seen him wiggling in around. I think it might be an oldest child thing. When they haven't seen someone else go through it they are more nervous. That's my theory anyway. :)

Amy @ Hope Is the Word said...

Would you believe that we just took this book back to the library today? :-)

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